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Dressing for a Jewish Funeral

Sunday, December 22

What to wear is one of the most common questions that we ask ourselves on a daily basis. For most occasions, we have a general idea of how we are expected to dress. However, when a loss occurs and it  time to pay our respects, it may be questionable as to what is appropriate. The one thing to keep in mind is that different religions or cultures may have different customs. When attending a Jewish funeral, the following generally applies:

Appropriate Colors/Attire
Modest, conservative clothing is best. As this is a time of mourning, bright or flashy attire should be avoided. Anything that you wear should be neat and tidy.  Suits, dress shirts and slacks for men and dresses for women should be in the gray, black or brown family. Men should complete their suit with a tie. Dress shoes are suggested and comfort is key. For women, keep in mind that while at the cemetery, you’ll be walking and standing on grass which may not be easy to do in heels.

Head Covering
Men of all religions must cover their head with a yarmulke, which may be personal or provided by the chapel, if needed. Women may be asked to wear a scarf or lace head covering.

Weather Considerations
Grave site burial can take place at any time of the year, in any type of weather. If taking place during the summer months, appropriate attire should still be worn. If you choose to wear a sleeveless blouse or dress, a cardigan or blazer is a good choice to complete your outfit. When deciding on shoes, avoid open toe options.  If during the winter, be sure to dress with a warm coat, hat, gloves, and scarf. Don’t forget an umbrella if it’s raining.

At Star of David Memorial Chapel, we are here to help you. Contact us with any questions that may arise during this difficult time.

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