If You Think Your Family Is Dysfunctional, You Are Part of a Very Large Club.
Sitting with families during a time of need or crisis can be a fascinating study. Invariably there is tension between siblings and it is reflected in the arrangement conference. Each individual has their own agenda, feelings of guilt and remorse, and perhaps resentment. This isn’t always the case, for sure, but it happens probably as frequently as it doesn’t.
Then of course, there’s the sibling, described unanimously by those at the arrangement conference as “No good!”. Oft times the answer to “do you have any other siblings?” is “Yeah but forget about him/her, they won’t be there…unless they can get a death certificate and steal what’s left of the money they haven’t already stolen.
At the end of the day, what you think might be an embarrassment to your family is no worse than most other families. Yes, on occasion, we find a totally loving and intact family but it is not only unusual, we often wonder, perhaps there are issues that are not as apparent as with other families.
So, accept what you’ve got. And be careful what you wish for because you might get it.