The new year is traditionally a time of celebration and a time to reflect on the past year and look forward to all that the coming year has in store. However, the new year may be anything but celebratory for those who have recently lost a loved one. Whether death occurred just before the holiday or because this will be the first new years without a loved one you usually celebrate with, there are ways to overcome grief and move forward into the new calendar year.
Below are some tips and resources to help navigate New Year’s Eve and Day:
- Be open about your emotions, and don’t be afraid to express when you need privacy.
The death of a loved one is a heavy burden. Although you may feel awkward about sharing your emotions or asking for help since others may be busy due to the holiday, do not be afraid to reach out. On the contrary, it is okay to let people know when you feel uncomfortable sharing how you feel.
- Don’t feel guilty if you aren’t up to participating in holiday festivities.
The loss of a loved one can be incredibly isolating, and it is often difficult to feel up to participating in holiday festivities. Don’t feel guilty if you need to decline invitations.
- Create new traditions that celebrate the life of your loved one.
One way to navigate the holiday after loss is to create new traditions and rituals. These can even incorporate the memory of your loved one. Schedule a dinner with friends or plan a trip. The restaurant or travel destination can be one of your loved one’s favorites.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
Grief is a unique experience, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Don’t compare yourself to others who seem to be coping better than you.
- Seek professional help if you are struggling to cope.
If the death of your loved one has left you struggling to cope, it might be helpful to seek assistance from a professional. There is no shame in admitting that you need help, and there are many resources available.
During the Holidays and Year-Round, We’re Here if You Need Help:
Coping with the death of a loved one can be difficult, but it is possible to find ways to manage grief and joyfully ring in the new year.
At Star of David Memorial Chapels on Long Island, New York, our funeral directors are here to answer any questions you may have about funeral services and Jewish mourning. Please get in touch with us at 631-454-9600.